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The Rule of Exception

Hey! I know that it's been awhile since I last posted a blog, I just got crazy busy with the new job and well... I mostly spend my Saturdays with friends and my Sundays in bed, in short, I'm basically still trying to get used to having a job.

Anyway, today I wanna talk about something my cousin and I talked about during one of our tequila sessions; The Rule of Exception (is what I like to call it).

So what is this “Rule of Exception” See this is when a heterosexual individual gets attracted, either physically or sexually, or simply gets involved with a homosexual individual or another heterosexual individual and vice versa.

When I was in high school my girlfriend at that time sent me a link to a Youtube video of a lesbian couple discussing all types of lesbians, I wish I remembered what all of them were, and who that couple was, but the only term that struck me the most is what they called Exception. They defined Exception as someone who's straight who happened to be in an intimate (or sexual) relationship with a lesbian, it’s called exception for obvious reasons, the lesbian in the relationship is the so called “exception to the rule,” in other words, she’s the one and only lesbian person her partner’s ever going to date.

During those moments, while watching my girlfriend and I watch the video, I got myself thinking if I was that exception to my girlfriend, she confirmed that thought by saying that she don’t see herself having another relationship with a girl. Which she  eventually took back after a few years when she had a relationship with a girl she met on Tumblr.

The Rule of Exception is real, I've seen it countless times with my closest friends, and even by personal experience, that's why back in college I was tagged as a Gender Bender, for reasons I won't elaborate on this post. Truth is, it is common for people to experience this especially during the stage of Identity Crisis.

So yeah, The Rule of Exception. I’m guessing this information would confuse straight people more, but it doesn’t make it any less true, it's just important to understand where people stand, understand the types of relationships they're in and why they're in one. We have to avoid immediate assumptions, we can’t just call someone bisexual or gay or lesbian, just because of who they date, it’s important to ask nicely for you to be able to comprehend it well.

In conclusion, the only thing you really must remember is that love is love, in whatever form, race, gender, and you know the rest.

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