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To Unlove — The Impossible

For most, whenever they get their hearts broken, they would often think that the only way to move on is to forget and to unlove. Personally, I do not believe in the concept of "unloving" someone. I've always been a firm believer that if you were able to unlove someone, it means you never truly loved them. Love transforms in different ways and can be found in different forms. You can definitely move on, but if love is real, you can never unlove. 

Think about it for a moment. Think about the person you were in love with, someone you thought you'd spend the rest of your life with but ended up crying over. Were you really able to unlove them? Or did your love changed its form from romantic love to affectionate love or selfless love?

What I learned about moving on is that they key to it is acceptance. We accept the reality that we fought the love we thought we deserved but it just wasn't meant for us. The memories will never disappear. It will come every now and then when we feel lonely, nostalgic, or sometimes even when we're happy. 

There's a difference between being in love and well... love. 

I have been asked a few times if I still love her. The answer is yes. I will always love her. But I have accepted the fact that I won't be spending the rest of my life with her. I understand that the we're meant for different people, meant to do different things and I am okay with it now. 
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